How To Own Your Feminine Essence

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Welcome back, beautiful souls! If you tuned in to Episode 99: How I Own My Pleasure and 10x’d My Sex Life, you know we went deep into reclaiming what makes us feel alive, sensual, and completely in our power. And wow—the response was incredible!

One message really stood out. A woman asked, ‘How can I own my femininity? How do I drop into my feminine energy when the world constantly has me in hustle mode?’

And I knew—we needed to have this conversation.

Why It’s So Important to Reconnect with Your Feminine Energy

Because here’s the truth:
Most women today are running on empty.
We’re burnt out. Overwhelmed. Disconnected from our own bodies and desires.

And a big reason why?

We are operating almost entirely in our masculine energy—pushing, striving, doing, achieving… but never being.

And when we ignore our feminine essence, we lose touch with:

✨ Our intuition – that deep, inner knowing guiding us toward what’s truly aligned.
✨ Our sensuality – not just in the bedroom, but in the way we feel life.
✨ Our ability to receive – love, support, rest, joy.
✨ Our softness and flow – the things that make life feel nourishing instead of draining.

And let’s be real—when we’re constantly in go mode, we don’t just feel off...
🚨 We get exhausted.
🚨 We lose passion in our relationships.
🚨 We struggle with stress, anxiety, even hormonal imbalances.

So today, I want to walk you through 11 powerful ways to drop into your feminine energy daily and awaken the most magnetic, radiant, and pleasure-filled version of you.

11 Ways to Own Your Feminine Essence

1. The Way You Dress

What you wear directly affects how you feel. If you’re always in baggy clothes or tight, uncomfortable business wear, try soft fabrics, flowy dresses, and colors that make you feel radiant.

💫 Try this: Instead of your usual hoodie and leggings for errands, wear a dress that hugs your body in a way that makes you feel confident. Add a scent that makes you feel sensual.

💡 Personal insight: I noticed during my ovulation phase, I naturally dress sexier, while in my luteal phase, I prefer looser clothing. Leaning into your cycle can help you feel even more in tune with your femininity!

2. The Way You Move

Masculine energy is rigid; feminine energy is fluid. Move in ways that feel good.

💫 Try this: Dance in your living room, sway your hips while walking, stretch your body slowly. Swap out high-intensity workouts for something fluid like yoga, Pilates, or a Tracy Anderson workout a few times per week.

3. The Way You Speak

Masculine communication is direct and fast-paced; feminine communication is warm, expressive, and engaging.

💫 Try this: Soften your tone, slow down, and add warmth to your words. Instead of saying “Yeah” or “No problem,” try: “Of course, I’d love to!” or “For sure, babe! Let’s do it.”

💡 Personal insight: I practice this with my partner, and it completely shifts the energy in our conversations.

4. Cultivating Slowness

We live in a world that glorifies hustle, but feminine energy thrives in flow.

💫 Try this: Schedule in self-care and mental health days without guilt. Create a list of things that feel good and do them—without feeling like you need to "earn" them.

5. Creating a Feminine Environment

Your space reflects your energy. Feminine energy loves beauty—so surround yourself with things that make you feel soft and sensual.

💫 Try this: Light candles, swap out harsh lighting for warm lamps, bring in fresh flowers, play soft music, and use non-toxic perfumes or essential oils like Jasmine and Rose.

6. Receiving vs. Giving

Masculine energy gives; feminine energy receives. Many women struggle with receiving—whether it’s a compliment, help, or pleasure.

💫 Try this: When someone offers you something—whether it’s a gift, a favor, or a compliment—pause, smile, and simply say, “Thank you.”

7. Sensory Indulgence

Femininity is deeply connected to the senses—touch, taste, smell, sound, and sight.

💫 Try this: Take slow, deep breaths, give yourself a full-body massage with coconut oil, wear soft fabrics, and play music that makes you feel alive.

8. Feminine Rituals & Self-Pleasure

Start incorporating self-pleasure into your feminine routine.

💫 Try this:
✨ The Womanizer – A suction-based toy designed for deep pleasure (game-changer!).
✨ A Yoni Wand – A crystal pleasure wand for sensual healing and connection.

💡 Personal insight: I recently purchased the Womanizer, and holy moly—life-changing!

9. Connection with Other Women

Feminine energy thrives in community.

💫 Try this: Plan a girls’ night or coffee date where you can just talk, laugh, and connect without the need to be productive.

10. Embodying Pleasure

Pleasure is the heart of femininity. And I’m not just talking about intimacy—I mean pleasure in all areas of life.

💫 Try this: Ask yourself daily: ‘What would feel good right now?’ And then do that—without guilt.

💡 Personal insight: Invite more fun, play, laughter, intimacy, and connection into your life.

11. Allowing the Masculine to Lead You

One of the most powerful ways to drop deeper into your feminine energy is surrendering control and allowing yourself to be led.

💫 Try this: Let your partner make a decision for you, carry the groceries, or hold space for you without stepping in to control.

📚 Books to read on this:

• The Way of the Superior Man – David Deida
• Dear Lover – David Deida
• The Enlightened Sex Manual – David Deida

💡 Personal insight: This is something I still work on! But when I lean back and receive, the dynamic completely shifts.

Final Thoughts: Balancing Your Feminine & Masculine Energy

This isn’t about abandoning your masculine energy altogether—it’s about balance.

Your masculine energy helps you get things done; your feminine energy helps you enjoy life while you do them.

So if you’ve been stuck in hustle mode, let this be your permission slip to soften, receive, and reclaim your radiance.

Love and light,

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